Comments for IBABC https://biblecounselors.com His Counsel, Our Victory Tue, 21 Jul 2026 23:58:27 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0.2 Comment on Lecture 5 by SoaleJ14 https://biblecounselors.com/courses/marital-counseling/lesson/lecture-5-8/#comment-1033 Tue, 21 Jul 2026 23:58:27 +0000 https://biblecounselors.com/courses/counseling-dynamics-3/lesson/lecture-5-7-2/#comment-1033 Anger
Steps to Resolve Anger
1. Acknowledge there is an issue
2. Repentance
3. Then they can make a change and you can give hope
Psalm 37:38
4. Eliminate wrong expectations

]]> Comment on Lecture 4 by SoaleJ14 https://biblecounselors.com/courses/marital-counseling/lesson/lecture-4-8/#comment-1032 Tue, 21 Jul 2026 22:59:24 +0000 https://biblecounselors.com/courses/counseling-dynamics-3/lesson/lecture-4-7-2/#comment-1032 Value Priority Paradigm
Luke 14:15 Counseling is about discernment.
Value is based on assigned worth.
Values drive priorities.
Priorities govern decision.
All of us value things differently and that is the basis of our decisions.
Prorities are based on added or removed value based on different scenarios.
Trauma resets value system. Sometimes after the Trauma the value does not get back to normal.
1. Understand priority paradigm of others. What is their values and priorities?
2. What is common source of priority? Bible
3. Having to reset after Trauma.
4. Spiritually value and priorities do matter. Put your focus on God.
5. Stop trying to fix everyone else. Fix your own problems. Start putting value on what God values.
6. True discipleship is showing others how to prioritize God’s values and priorities and incorporate them into our lives.
7. If I am going to adapt spiritually, then have to adjust my value system.
8. Marriage will be successful of both come to a unified standard.
What to do when you disagree? Do all things without murmuring and strife.
Opposite of order is chaos.
1. Set aside pride
2. Refuse anger
3. Listen completely
4. Speak peacefully, peaceful words and tones
5. Be merciful – to show mercy, you must be offended. To be submissive, you have to be in disagreement
6. Prov 16:17 when man pleases the Lord, he will make his enemies peaceful – examine yourself
Stop trying to figure out the problem with someone else and work on yourself
7. Never pick at a situation.
8. You do not need to correct spouse over everything
9. Seek counsel if you cannot resolve
10. Be willing to receive instruction

]]> Comment on Grade Requirements by SoaleJ14 https://biblecounselors.com/courses/marital-counseling/lesson/grade-requirements/#comment-1029 Thu, 16 Jul 2026 09:47:49 +0000 https://biblecounselors.com/courses/counseling-dynamics-3/lesson/lecture-15-7-2/#comment-1029 3 essays, 2 pages
Purpose of marriage
How to resolve conflicts
Biblical roles in marriage

All dynamics in class

]]> Comment on Lecture 13 by SoaleJ14 https://biblecounselors.com/courses/counseling-dynamics/lesson/lecture-13-7/#comment-1026 Mon, 13 Jul 2026 23:38:54 +0000 https://biblecounselors.com/courses/diagnostics-and-data-3/lesson/lecture-13-6-2/#comment-1026 Ephesians 4:26-27 – Dealing with Anger. 3 Ways – What is the problem? Wrong expectations. 1. Internalize. 2. Ventilation – Anger turned outward. Once you ventilate, then you get used to needing to release it. Temporary fix, repeats continually. 3. Examine Expectations, Examine our ways, Identify real problem (motive of heart), Biblical Communication, Kind, Tenderhearted and Forgive, Maintain spirit filled life.

]]> Comment on Lecture 12 by SoaleJ14 https://biblecounselors.com/courses/counseling-dynamics/lesson/lecture-12-7/#comment-1025 Mon, 13 Jul 2026 23:31:22 +0000 https://biblecounselors.com/courses/diagnostics-and-data-3/lesson/lecture-12-6-2/#comment-1025 Expectations – Genesis 4 Cain and Abel – Expectations need to come from God and not men. We get expectations from God’s Word. When angry, ask what expectation did I have? God expects us to do wrong. He desires us to do good. 1. Confess non-biblical expectations. 2. Get biblical expectations and 3. Forgiveness. Forgive for Christ’s sake.

]]> Comment on Lecture 11 by SoaleJ14 https://biblecounselors.com/courses/counseling-dynamics/lesson/lecture-11-7/#comment-1024 Mon, 13 Jul 2026 19:30:12 +0000 https://biblecounselors.com/courses/diagnostics-and-data-3/lesson/lecture-11-6-2/#comment-1024 3 C’s – create a trigger list. If you have a thought that you cannot figure out where it comes from, it might be of an evil spirit.

]]> Comment on Lecture 7 by SoaleJ14 https://biblecounselors.com/courses/counseling-dynamics/lesson/lecture-7-7/#comment-1020 Mon, 06 Jul 2026 16:47:37 +0000 https://biblecounselors.com/courses/diagnostics-and-data-3/lesson/lecture-7-6-2/#comment-1020 Building stroke file – 3×5 cards, box or rubberband

Give thanks for happiness.
Humility is God focused, false humility is putting yourself down
Self focus issues is good for a stroke file.

If they are having a hard time loving. Need to look for good things. Change how they think and perceive things. Give thanks and praise in all things.

Daniel 6:7-10 – praying 3 times a day. 7 times if needed. Date 3 times, 3 things thankful for each time

Backside, put name of person and 3 times a day what is thankful for and things she does not do

Read through them on the bad days.

]]> Comment on Lecture 6 by SoaleJ14 https://biblecounselors.com/courses/counseling-dynamics/lesson/lecture-6-7/#comment-1019 Mon, 06 Jul 2026 16:17:40 +0000 https://biblecounselors.com/courses/diagnostics-and-data-3/lesson/lecture-6-6-2/#comment-1019 How to restructure a life. Put off, put on
3 part process
How to bring practice in alignment with position. Ephesus 4. Works do not produce identity, they represent identity.
1. Identify sinful action.
2. Biblical practice.
3. Correct thinking
When provoked, do not react in anger. Gives place to the devil. Give the devil an inch he will be your ruler.
What things do you need to put off?
Sowing and Reaping dynamic – start reading galations ?:6-8, 2 Peter 3:9
When sow bad seed. God gives grace, but when you start doing good, bad fruits may appear and discourage us, but we need to continue with the good seed and you will see good crops.

]]> Comment on Lecture 5 by SoaleJ14 https://biblecounselors.com/courses/counseling-dynamics/lesson/lecture-5-7/#comment-1018 Mon, 06 Jul 2026 15:41:58 +0000 https://biblecounselors.com/courses/diagnostics-and-data-3/lesson/lecture-5-6-2/#comment-1018 Forgiveness dynamic Ephesians 4:31-32 put off – bitterness, anger, clamor, evil speaking related to an offense, we need to set them aside.
Be kind
God will take care of everything. Trust God with the offense. Identity, position, purpose we have in Christ. Seek unity in spirit. God will take care of all things.
Be tenderhearted and empathy.
Forgive one another.
When we keep bringing something up we have truly not forgiven. When you ask God to forgive you he does not examine you because Christ covered it. We should forgive with no examination of others since God covered it.
Forgiveness is not about you or them. Did Christ die for the offense? We can forgive all things.
Verse 10-11 – when a person does not forgive, they are saying Christ’s death was not sufficient. You are then despising the cross and Satan gets an advantage over you
Matthew 6:15 – once you have despised for one, you have despised for all which includes me. Proof against Calvanism.
3rd danger of unforgiveness – Matthew 18:32-34 – full of fear, afraid, anxiety – start with forgiveness, Satan is an accuser and they are tormented based on their unforgiveness.
Forgiveness is a fixed point, it is at the cross. They forgive due to logic or emotions. These Forgiveness does not work. Feelings and situations change. You have to leave it at the cras.
Homework: write out every offense or things that you are bitter about. One by one, take them to the cross and choose to leave it to the cross. Ask God to bring to you anything you have an offense about. Feelings will change due to choices. Follow truth. If you follow thinking or feelings you will always question truth.
Forgiveness is not one sided. It is like a coin. The coin of restoration. God chose Forgiveness before the world. Why are you still unforgiven? You haven’t accepted and repented. The other side of the coin is repentance. Did not receive until repented and received Forgiveness. Wicked people know how to use this. They think since you are Christian they can continue in their ways and you will keep interacting and you will forgive. Repent means to be sorrowful for what they have done. Forgiveness is about my attitude and that the cross is sufficient. Restoration is not about Forgiveness exclusively, it includes repentance. Relationship can be restored once they recognize their actions.

]]> Comment on Lecture 3 by SoaleJ14 https://biblecounselors.com/courses/counseling-dynamics/lesson/lecture-3-7/#comment-1012 Wed, 01 Jul 2026 17:33:18 +0000 https://biblecounselors.com/courses/diagnostics-and-data-3/lesson/lecture-3-6-2/#comment-1012 Blocked circumstances – Roman’s 10:17, Hebrews 11:6, Hebrews 11:1 – person has a problem, they have a goal and there is a blocked circumstance that is blocking them from the goal. They are to look over the wall and walk in faith.
1. You have to believe God that can help meet your goal. You have to trust to take steps by faith.
2. Ask God, stop concentrating on the feelings and emotional reactions and just proceed in the actions you need to do by faith.
3. Accept by faith that God will take care of it.

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